Nice To Be With You…
By Ven. Suy Sovann
Being with you I feel happy. Being with you I do not feel lonely. Being with you I am free from hatred. Being with you I find my way to live in the present moment. Being with you I live peacefully and happily. Being with you my mind becomes calm…
When you see a phrase, ‘Being with you’, you might have doubt what I mean. I think you get confused by reading this statement a few sentences. But actually it is simple statement which I want to express what I experienced in life. We always want to live peacefully and happily in the world. There are four kinds of expectations of human thinking, namely:
1- Experiencing Happiness,
2- Expelling Suffering,
3- Living Longer, and
4- Not to Die
These are our human expectations. How can we access our expectation? Life is suffering, isn’t it? Actually, life has not been happening in the past. That is just memory. Life is not going to happen in the future. That is just plan. So how do we live? Life exists only in the present moment. The past has already gone beyond call, and the future will never come. In our day to day living, we always think about the past and the future. Here the Buddha advises to live only in the present moment. We must be with our best friend, mindfulness or awareness all the time. What I mean by ‘YOU’ in this statement is ‘Mindfulness or Awareness’. In day to day living, all people are in need of awareness to achieve our wishes. In Digha Nikaya, Satipatthana Sutta, the Buddha says: “This is the only way, monks, for the purification of beings, for the overcoming of sorrow and lamentation, for the destruction of suffering and grief, for reaching the right path, for the attainment of Nibbana, namely, the four foundations of mindfulness. What are the four? Herein (in this teaching) a monk lives contemplating the body in the body, ardent, clearly comprehending and mindful, having overcome, in this world, covetousness and grief; he lives contemplating feelings in feelings, ardent, clearly comprehending and mindful, having overcome, in this world, covetousness and grief; he lives contemplating consciousness in consciousness, ardent, clearly comprehending and mindful, having overcome, in this world, covetousness and grief; he lives contemplating mental objects in mental objects, ardent, clearly comprehending and mindful, having overcome, in this world, covetousness and grief”. This is the only way that we can purify our minds from the defilements. In addition, Mindfulness or Awareness is compared to a driver of vehicle that all passengers rely on. If the driver is mindful in driving, all passengers will be safe. In the same way, all meritorious deeds are depending on our awareness or mindfulness. In the Dhammapada, the Buddha says: “Mindfulness is the way to the Deathless (Nibbàna); unmindfulness is the way to Death. Those who are mindful do not die; those who are not mindful are as if already dead”.
In short, nice to be with awareness of breathing in and breathing out in our daily living. We must be aware of what we are doing for all postures, walking, sitting, standing or lying down. Life is too short, but if a person is energetic, mindful, pure in his thought, word and deed, and if he does everything with care and consideration, restrains his senses, earns his living according to the Law (Dhamma) and is not unheedful, then, the fame and fortune of that mindful person steadily increase.